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Christians And Same-Sex Marriage
In light of the recent Supreme Court ruling mandating that same-sex marriage is now the law of the land and permissible in all 50 states, Christians everywhere have gone on the warpath and made the issue their #1 target to fight at all costs.  But why?
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I’ve often wondered how someone else’s life or someone else’s marriage is cause for so much Christian concern above all else? I’ve often thought if someone doesn’t believe in gay marriage, then they don’t have to marry someone gay. Simple! It’s the same with interracial marriage, interreligious marriage, age-gap marriage, or whatever. Well, I recently got my answer, when I engaged in a Facebook banter with an old elementary school friend who is now a minister. His words and his wrath against same-sex couples, combined with his defense of the sanctity of marriage was informative of just what modern day Christian thinking has done to otherwise rational people.
My minister friend freely wielded his years of study and random bible quotes as his weapon of choice to back up his beliefs against same-sex marriage. He offered his own personal theories of how we should all be basically donning Superman suits to come to the defense of morality and save society from itself.  It had me wondering if the kid who sat next to me in homeroom had been brainwashed.
For all those who call themselves “Christian,” who believe the bible is THE word of God and that we should avoid sin and follow God’s commandments, how do these people rationalize their “picking and choosing” of which “sins” they will fight and which they will let falter?
Oh, it’s a high and mighty moral ground some of these “Christians” have placed themselves on. Â Unfortunately, it’s also a slippery slope they will actually end up on.
For those Christians who are against same-sex marriage simply because they believe it is against God’s word, I hope they didn’t have bacon with their eggs for breakfast this morning. They better not have ordered the shrimp fried rice last night from the local take out. Do they have tattoos or wear clothes that are a cotton/wool blend?  Have they ever been drunk?  Have they ever told a white lie, had premarital sex or been divorced? Well, those are all sins in the bible and since no one sin is greater than the other, how is it OK for these “Christians” to go against God’s word, but not OK for same-sex couples to go get married?
Further, who put these “Christians” on a moral pedestal? The bible clearly states in Matthew 7:1-3 “Judge not, that ye may not be judged.” So, exactly how do these Christians justify their judgment of others while claiming to follow God’s word?
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Many Christians and so-called “church-folk” have a history of judging what’s right and what’s wrong, based on what works FOR THEM. They will engage in premarital sex and acts of lust because that is something THEY LIKE for themselves.  Yet they will frown upon someone falling in love and wanting to marry someone of their same-sex, simply because that is something THEY DISLIKE.  It’s a game of favoritism and classic picking and choosing!
For all the Christian bible thumpers who are quick to pull out the word of God as a moral weapon, where were they several years ago when Britney Spears got married on a drunken whim, then divorced 55 hours later?  Why aren’t they picketing outside divorce courts across America to stop government involvement in the annulment of marriages?  How do they justify the millions of Justice of the Peace court marriages over church marriages?  Why are these same folk ecstatic when their unmarried teenager brings them home a grandchild, but up in arms when a monogamous same-sex couple wants to adopt?
If you are a Christian who claims to be against sin, then you have to commit to it and be against ALL “sin.”  You don’t get to pick the sins you like as being OK, but stand on a soapbox against other sins you don’t like as not OK.  It doesn’t work that way.
So, get off the fence! If you’re going to stand on a moral mountaintop and judge if everyone else’s hands are dirty, first make sure your own hands are clean. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut, mind your own business and live your own life without feeling it is your place to control the lives of others.
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@DJ- Another great post. You're really on a roll this week with your topics. 🙂
On a serious note though….I agree with you on nearly all points made.
Yes, many Christians have, as you've noted "gone on the warpath and made the issue (of legalizing same-sex marriage) their #1 target to fight at all costs."
However, from what I'm seeing and hearing, not only are more Christians, at least coming to grips with it, but in SOME cases, Pastors (even Black Pastors) are leading the way towards a more umm…Peaceful co-existence, if you will, between straights and gays, in general.
Now let me be clear.
No. I'm not saying that Pastors have now suddenly become "Okay" with same sex marraige. But SOME Pastors are stepping up and challenging church members to hold up a mirror and "check yourself." Those pastors are calling Out the blatant HYPOCRISIES customary among too many congregations beginning with the *SELECTIVE* outrage DJ noted in his post.
As a Black Christian I can tell you first hand, church folk being against *certain* kinds of sin versus dismissing…perhaps even HAPPILY engaging in …*other* kinds of sin runs rampant in the Black church. Btw- Check out the Youtube video of Pastor E. Dewey Smith recently "unloading on what he calls the hypocrisy of condemning LGBT people by Christian churches." The man is truly "making waves."
In conclusion- DJ sums it up beautifully….
"If you are a Christian who claims to be against sin, then you have to commit to it and be against ALL “sin. You don't get to pick the sins you like as being OK, but stand on a soapbox against other sins you don’t like as not OK. It doesn’t work that way."
And let the Church say……AMEN.
Yes DJ you are on a roll. But I don't agree with my good friend Truth on this one. Black pastors and black churches are not really coming around on this issue, because they spent so many years teaching this was a sin so now they can't backtrack on it. My own church pastor is suspected to be gay himself, but he still stands up in the pulpit telling everybody it's wrong for men to love on men. Then everybody claps and hollers because that's what we were taught to do. Obviously all you have to do is look in the choir and see mostly gay men at any church, but still they teach this is wrong and this is bad. The church has a long way to go on this and so do a lot of Christians. Like DJ said, they've been picking and choosing for years. They go out and have premarital sex but are the first to stand up against homosexual sex. A lot of hipocrits in the church.
Don't get me wrong BD. I am in NOT in any way suggesting that the issue of gay marriage…homosexuality….isn't still a major bone of contention for many Christians.
But in my first response you will note that I said " from what I'M seeing and hearing" there is a change happening among SOME Christians. I'm talking about Change that I have personally witnessed (seen and heard) first hand. And that Change has been for the good.
Change within some Christian folks I've known For Years, if not my whole life. Family members and long-time friends. And even several Black Ministers. I'm talking about people who had been so ANTI-gay that I NEVER thought in a million years they would, in time, temper their views and actually speak with a little sensitivity on the subject!?!
The truth is, they have really SHOCKED me!
But I absolutely AGREE with you on this- "The church (still) has a long way to go on this and so do a lot of Christians."
Ok I see you Ok Wassup. Your hitting on some deep subjects. I'm glad I stumbled on your site. Today is a good story. I know my church doesn't approve of gay marriage and I agree with that. I don't approve of men marrying men and all that but I can't do anything about it. All I can do is believe in my church and my God and live my life. You did say some interesting things about other type of sins though since i know us Christians do pick and choose sometimes. Gotta work on that.
And on a somewhat related note, the story below is getting lots of attention this morning……
"Josh Duggar's Name Linked to Multiple Ashley Madison accounts"
The eldest Duggar son is in hot water…again. Josh Duggar, 27, was reportedly paying for not one, but two accounts on Ashley Madison, a website specifically designed for cheating spouses. The site was hacked in July, reportedly revealing that the father of four and husband of Anna Duggar allegedly signed up for one night stands and oral sex. […]
H/T: Hollywood Life
So once AGAIN this "deeply religious" guy from a "deeply religious" family finds himself OUTED due to his own inablity to control his sexual urges.
For readers who may not be aware……
The Duggar Family reality-show was recently canceled after a "molestation scandal" came to light involving Josh and his umm…problem keeping his hands OFF his younger sisters when he was a teenager.
Turns out his "deeply religious" PARENTS made the decision back then not to get him help and to keep the whole sick story a secret.
Thanks for the update, Truthiz1. Here is the official statement from Josh Duggar, admitting he has been the "biggest hypocrite ever." Apparently he can talk the talk (Christian/family values), but can't walk the walk:
"I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife. I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him."
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No. Thank You DJ for coming strong with topics that We (your readers/ thinking folks) can really sink our teeth into!
I hope more voices chime in because I'm loving it..!.
I consider my self a Christian and believe Love is Love. Jesus is love and forgiveness. I, once had a woman say to me that she couldn't believe that I was such a Liberal Democrat and a Christian. I replied that Jesus was probably the most liberal person who ever walked the earth. He loved everyone especially the downtrodden such as prostitutes, murderers and the poor. His life was about helping and loving all people. She didn't have a reply. So called Christians can be the worst hypocrites.
I've learned over the years, not to assume anything. I will tell you this: the issue of dietary restrictions found in the Torah does not carry over into Paul's epistles to the Christians in either Rome or Corinth. In both of those letters, those who engage in what we now call homosexual acts are condemned. The fathers, both pre- and post-Nicaea, understood his words in that way, as did the Reformers. This modern "redefinition" of Greek and Latin terms to suit the agendas of those who want to enjoy the grace of God while clinging to their sin may give cover to them and their allies. It won't, however, change to truth as it is in Christ. As far as being "brain-washed," not only my brain, but all that I am, has been washed in the blood of the Lamb. His Law is written in my heart and mind. That reality drives what I say and do. If you really want to know; ask.